Why you like me
August 26, 2010 Leave a comment
I think I’ve found a new favorite website: Miller-McCune. I’ve come across the stray article before, but I didn’t realize that they basically take social science findings and turn them into well-written and smart journalism. There’s some really cool articles I plan to blog on soon. For now, this one caught my attention:
Why are we drawn to one person and not another? Physical attractiveness is one obvious ingredient, but researchers have identified another, quite different factor that heightens one’s personal appeal.
It seems we enjoy socializing with people who have found meaning in their lives…
“Meaning is a powerful and independent predictor of interpersonal appeal,” reports a study titled “Meaning as Magnetic Force,” just published in the journalSocial Psychological and Personality Science. “People seek interpersonal connections with those who have found meaning in life.”
The idea that the search for meaning in life is a basic human drive was famously articulated by psychologist Viktor Frankl in 1946, not long after he was liberated from a Nazi concentration camp. According to team behind this new research, “a natural extension” of this idea “is that people will seek to affiliate with those who have a strong sense of meaning.”
In other words, people searching for a purpose in life — whether or not they are consciously aware of this deep-seated desire — will likely be attracted to others who have arrived at an answer.
I certainly feel I’ve found meaning in my life. That must be why you like me.
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